Helloo everyone! NAMASTEY!!!

Last week was the week of valentine’s and love. Love was in the air, floating around between lovers of all ages, across the world. If you celebrated this lovely day with the person you love, congratulations!!! I am absolutely elated for you. But if you do not have a SOMEBODY just like myself. It is completely fine, no pressure. From now onwards you share the love you have inside of you for your own self. Why does it really matter if you have somebody to love or not, when you can love yourself. Let’s talk about how to love and accept yourself more.

Self love is a key to happiness. Few years back I was in a relationship with a guy who was my first love. Not always but I was kind of dependent on him to make me happy. I would be upset about something and he would come around and cheer up my mood. That was kinda cute. Henceforth, I started feeling that he was my saviour. And started running to him when things went wrong. A year later, we broke up and I moved to another city where I was alone and felt feeble. Those years went by like a blur, just me tossing back and forth in my sadness and in dependency that someone would come by and make my life joyful again. But no one came.

Then one day I heard about a campaign on the internet about loving yourself. And at that point I did not have the slightest idea about ‘loving oneself’. I was like, “what is this?” “what does this even mean?” and even today I am not an expert at loving myself completely but I guess this is a journey I started 3 years back and I am learning along the way.

SELF LOVE is a feeling when you provide yourself with the love and care you would provide others with. You treat yourself how you want others to treat you.

In the beginning, I did not know a single thing about self love. I was confused and lost, like where do I even start? If only I had met “today me” 3 years back I would explain a lot of concepts clearly.

Fast forward to today, I am happy, contented with who I am and I must admit not every day is the same day. Not all days are sunshine and warmth, sometimes it’s dark and gloomy and you hold yourself tighter and pick yourself up.

Self love allows you to do that. I am much stronger as well as gentler, I am more accepting of myself and I am fine being by myself (though I am not alone, my sister and my friends are always there 😉)

So how do you love and accept yourself more

Notice yourself: loving yourself starts from knowing yourself. Unless you know yourself, you cannot love yourself. When we fall in love with somebody it usually happens when we get to know them. It’s something about them that attracts us, whether it’s their voice, their etiquette, the way they put themselves, their radiance, confidence, mysterious, quietude, can be anything. The attraction elevates when you get to know them. Hence, get to know yourself. Maybe note it down whenever you find something intriguing about yourself. Ask your close ones, they see a lot of things that we don’t. whenever you are in different situations, suppose how do you react when you are stressed? I usually tend to be distracted, out of breath and my heart starts beating fast, I feel dizzy. Notice yourself and get to know yourself.

Accept yourself: after you notice yourself, take a moment and pause. Do not judge or appreciate yourself. Just sit back and accept it. Accept that’s a part of you and that is completely fine. All of us are different as well as same and that is also completely fine. If you don’t like whatever it is about you, go ahead, read books, learn and transform. We live one life on this planet, and I don’t think anyone wants to waste it just by looking at the world from just one perspective. There are so many books written by people who went through the same problems and crushed their way out, learnt lessons and bring it in a book for others to learn. There were so many traits about me i’d like to change. These days I am reading “THE ZEN OF YOU AND ME” where the author is going through the process of accepting the differences, staying calm through a calamity, mindfulness etc. I am still reading it but until now I am trying to retrain myself and look at the world, people and myself from a different point of view. Accepting and changing my way.

Meditation: meditation oooofff. You might think “I am so sick of seeing this word everywhere”. Ever wondered why is this word used so many times and why does everybody preach about it everywhere. Maybe there is something behind it. There are numerous meditations online, I would recommend trying mindfulness and self love meditations. Just start with 4-5 minutes practices for a week, I bet you will love it because I do. Just like our bodies need exercise and yoga, so does the brain. Meditation is like a relaxation and yoga for our brains. If you know the benefits of yoga and exercise you will easily understand how beneficial meditation will be for you.

A few basic self care activities: we have written a blog post especially about some basic self care activities you should know and follow. Do check it out here.

Treat yourself the way you want others to treat you: there was a quote or a saying that went like, “treat others the way you want to be treated” and a while back I read that it’s the other way around. TREAT YOURSELF THE WAY YOU WANT OTHERS TO TREAT YOU. Read that again! You want people to respect you, start by respecting yourself. You want others to make you happy, start by doing things that make you happy. How will you know what makes you happy? By following the first step we stated before. You want people to accept you, start by accepting yourself. Automatically you will see a boost in your self esteem when you start treating yourself the way you should be treated. Things will start to change if you switch up a little bit.

You are allowed to take your time: there is honestly no rush. Don’t beat yourself up if you can’t change in a day, in a week or even in a year. Rome was not built in a day. It takes time to clean up the waste that was piled up of years of negligence. It takes time. Don’t, I repeat, DON’T GIVE UP if you can’t seem to be regular. You can resume anytime, maybe you pressed the pause button accidently. JUST PRESS THE RESUME AND BEGIN. What has gone is gone, you can change a lot even if you take a step per day, and just by choosing to show up for yourself. SLOW AND STEADY WINS THE RACE.

Not every day is the same day: it’s not going to be a love yourself every day. Some days you are going to feel like a sunflower blooming in the sunshine, some days you will be a withered sunflower on a cloudy day, that’s just fine. Let the bad days come, let the emotions come and take over you feel it, because this too shall pass. I want to let you know that you can pick yourself up anytime and anywhere. You have to be there for yourself when no one else does. Nobody is all happy and glee all the time. We all have our fair share of bad and good days in the package of life. Let it come and breathe and believe everything will be okay even if it doesn’t seem like it.

I hope this post will be a little helpful in your journey towards loving yourself and accepting yourself. We believe in you and so should you.

Thank you!

Love Yourself!

‘cus u deserve the love!♥️