Sera’s mother is worried about her strained relationship with her daughter…she can’t understand why her daughter hates her
Sera loves her mother but somehow always ends up giving the impression of the opposite
Sera wants to share with her mother her stories just like her friends who have a close relationship with their mothers
She wanted to be close and affectionate to her parents too but couldn’t
She couldn’t ..even though she tried to
The moment she’ll reach out to be affectionate with them she starts feeling awkward and gives up
she makes up her mind to share everything with them….tell them what she has in mind
But when she reaches her parents she backtracks
And then what she wants to say is only heard in anger and it always sounds wrong…anger rarely helps smoothen things out !And she keeps on regretting not saying it out calmly
Now y’all are thinking how is this related to the topic but it is!! and that surely it’s her problem … the problem is with her… that she can’t say what she wants to her parents that she feels awkward being affectionate with her family but it’s not her fault
She wasn’t brought up in an environment where her parents won’t judge and reprimand her if she said what she had in mind…she thinks she wouldn’t be understood… So she doesn’t speak out
Are you the child who feels unloved or uncared for by their parents or are you the parent who feels their child hates you or is rebeling?
So firstly let me let you know that your parents love you and your child loves you too
they do love you ,you are their flesh and blood afterall!
Your child loves you !! He /she can’t hate you.. until n unless you did a crime against them or abandoned them but sometimes even despite that they love you because you brought them into this world!
What is parenting?
Parenting or child rearing is the process of promoting and supporting the physical, emotional, social, and intellectual development of a child from infancy to adulthood. Parenting refers to the intricacies of raising a child and not exclusively for a biological relationship. [From Wikipedia]
Meaning only giving birth (or being a contributor to birth) doesn’t make you a parent
The Parent-Child Relationship is one that nurtures the physical, emotional and social development of the child. It is a unique bond that every child and parent will/ can enjoy and nurture. This relationship lays the foundation for the child’s personality, life choices and overall behaviour. It can also affect the strength of their social, physical, mental and emotional health.
Why is it important to learn about good parenting
Most parents use their own upbringing as a blueprint for parenting, which is not recommended due to evolution of society and social environment. It is proven that certain practices of parenting are more harmful than they are beneficial to your child
Similarly
Parenting is probably the most important public health issue facing our society. It is the single largest variable implicated in childhood illnesses and accidents; teenage pregnancy and substance misuse; truancy, school disruption, and underachievement; child abuse; unemployability; juvenile crime; and mental illness. These are serious in themselves but are even more important as precursors of problems in adulthood and the next generation.
The importance of parenting arises from its role as a buffer against adversity (such as poverty or delinquent influences) or mediator of damage (as in child abuse). Parenting usually involves biological parents but is not confined to them.Carers, teachers, nurses, and others fulfil parenting tasks with children. Parenting has three essential components.
Firstly, care protects children from harm. Care also encompasses promoting emotional as well as physical health.
Secondly, control involves setting and enforcing boundaries to ensure children’s and others’ safety, in ever widening areas of activity.
Thirdly, development involves optimising children’s potential and maximising the opportunities for using it.
Although a reasonable consensus exists about “bad parenting,” there is no agreement about its opposite, particularly in a diverse and rapidly changing society.
Parenting is crucial but no one really realises how much…. parenting affects the child
You even though are now an adult your personality and decisions are still somehow influenced from how you were treated or raised in childhood
Raising a child is surely a very difficult task on it’s own
And then to be told that your parenting ways might be faulty it’s no doubt a bit depressing to know
But trust me it’s better late than never you can still try your best to be a Good parent
Because maybe your child is still waiting for you to come around or is still affected by it… without realising!
You might not even realise how much a word of yours have an affect on your child
You have to understand your child! The best way to do that is to Be their Bestfriend but don’t force it! Let them talk! Let them share! And act as the friend when they want a friend and a Mother when you need to be!
It ain’t going to be easy! Well nothing is at first!
You might even think that you are doing nothing wrong but you are without realising
So Communicate!!
Have a heart to heart!
Try to put yourself in their shoes!
Try to understand the environment they are in!
Try to understand what they might be going through!
Don’t be set in your ways!
Be Broad Minded!
Make them understand where you are coming from!
Reach a solution or a compromise together!
Don’t preach what you Don’t follow!
Set an Example!(Be the role model)
Be understanding and perceptive of their Emotions!
It’s hard work being a parent! And We are proud of you! For bringing a new life to this world! And nurturing it with love, patience and care!
Have a great relationship ♥️!
Stay Healthy and safe!
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